Category: Essays

  • When Fathers Become Strangers: Aging, Sacrifice, Bitterness, and the Loneliness We Do Not Talk About

    Dr. Mary Mba

    May 15, 2026

    (AI generated image created by Dr. Mary Mba, May 15, 2026)

    My brother recently shared an audio recording with me, a reflective song/story about an elderly man in Zambia who sacrificed everything for his children, only to find himself lonely and emotionally abandoned in old age.

    The piece stayed with me long after I listened to it.

    Not because it is rare.

    But because it is painfully familiar.

    Across African families and diasporic communities, there are many versions of this story:
    parents who gave everything,
    children trying to survive their own complicated lives,
    old wounds left unresolved,
    and silence growing louder with age.

    As I listened, I found myself reflecting deeply not only on aging and loneliness, but also on fatherhood, masculinity, emotional distance, migration, resentment, forgiveness, and the fear of becoming obsolete after spending a lifetime building something.

    The story immediately reminded me of the emotional themes surrounding The Devil Wears Prada and conversations about The Devil Wears Prada 2. Beneath the glamour and fashion industry politics lies a deeply human fear:
    What happens when the world no longer needs what you spent your entire life becoming?

    The elderly retired banker in this song and powerful aging professionals like Miranda Priestly are emotionally connected by the same anxiety:
    the fear of becoming invisible after years of sacrifice, labor, excellence, and relevance.

    Below is the arranged lyrical version of the story that inspired these reflections.

    “Old Age Is Long”

    (Inspired by a widely circulated Zambian reflective song/story shared online. Original authorship currently unverified.)

    I got married at the age of thirty,
    Three years after graduating from Genza.
    I met my wife at Honsa Campus.
    She was beautiful, hardworking,
    And full of dreams.

    Three years later,
    We became husband and wife.

    Soon after,
    I secured a banking job.
    Life smiled at me.

    I worked tirelessly.
    I gave my wife and children
    The best life I could afford.

    I sent my children
    To the best primary and secondary schools in Lusaka.
    Nothing was too expensive
    When it came to their education.

    I paid school fees without complaint.
    I sacrificed my comfort.
    Every bonus, every saving, every opportunity
    I used for them.

    Some of my children studied abroad.
    Today, they are successful.
    One is a banker.
    One is a surgeon.
    One is a pilot.

    They all live outside Zambia now.

    I was proud.
    I thought I had succeeded as a father.

    But I made one mistake.
    A mistake I now live with every day.

    I saved nothing for my old age.

    I believed my children would be there for me.
    After all,
    Everything I had,
    I spent on them.

    Today I am seventy-five years old,
    Living in Chinkuli village.

    My banking job is gone.
    My strength is gone.
    My voice is weaker.
    My legs shake when I walk.

    I now live alone in the village.

    When my wife fell sick,
    My children rushed home.
    They took her abroad for treatment.
    They promised they would come back for me.

    That was years ago.

    My wife is still there,
    Living with them,
    Cared for,
    Surrounded by comfort.

    And me?

    I sit outside my mud house every evening,
    Watching the sunset.

    Sometimes I hold my phone,
    Hoping it will ring.

    Sometimes days pass.
    Weeks pass.
    Without a call.

    Yes, they send money for my treatment.
    But what I want
    Is attention.

    When I am hungry,
    I endure it quietly.

    When rain leaks through my roof,
    I shift my bed.

    At night,
    I ask myself painful questions:

    Did I raise children?
    Or did I raise strangers?

    Was I wrong to believe
    Love would remember me?

    Why did I give everything
    And keep nothing for myself?

    The truth hurts more than loneliness.

    Children grow up.
    Life moves on.
    Promises fade.

    Not always because people are wicked,
    But because everyone becomes busy
    With their own lives.

    So if you are a man reading this,
    Love your children.
    Train them well.
    Educate them.

    But do not forget yourself.

    Save for your old age.
    Prepare for tomorrow.

    Do not place your entire future
    In anyone’s hands,
    Not even your children’s.

    Because love is sweet,
    But old age is long.

    And loneliness
    Is louder
    When you no longer have strength left.

    (This reflective song/story was shared with me by my brother and appears to circulate widely online. I have been unable to verify the original author, singer, or source. If you are the creator or know the rightful attribution, please contact me so proper credit can be given.)

    The Song Refuses Simple Villains

    One of the reasons this song is so emotionally powerful is because it resists simple villains.

    The children are not portrayed as monsters.

    The father is not portrayed as entirely innocent either.

    The tragedy lies in emotional distance, generational expectations, migration, aging, and the painful misunderstandings surrounding love and sacrifice.

    This is not merely a story about “ungrateful children.”

    It is also a story about the emotional limitations many men inherited and passed down without realizing the consequences.

    The African Father as Provider

    Many African fathers of older generations were taught that a good father provides.

    Love was measured through:
    school fees,
    food,
    discipline,
    housing,
    survival,
    and sacrifice.

    Emotional intimacy was often treated as secondary, unnecessary, or even weak.

    Many men genuinely loved their children deeply, but they expressed that love through labor rather than emotional connection.

    Their affection sounded like:
    “Have you eaten?”
    “Study hard.”
    “Do not disgrace this family.”
    “Who paid your fees?”

    Not:
    “I love you.”
    “I am proud of you.”
    “How are you emotionally?”
    “I was wrong.”

    As a result, many children grew up materially supported but emotionally distant from their fathers.

    A father can fully fund a child’s education and still remain emotionally unknown to that child.

    That creates a painful contradiction:
    “My father sacrificed everything for me, but I never truly knew him.”

    This does not erase the father’s sacrifices.

    But it helps explain why financial provision alone does not always create emotional closeness in adulthood.

    When Discipline Becomes Fear

    This conversation also requires honesty about parenting culture in many African homes.

    Corporal punishment was normalized.
    Some fathers ruled through fear rather than relationship.

    Children were beaten harshly “for their own good.”
    Some witnessed domestic violence against their mothers.
    Some grew up around shouting, intimidation, humiliation, emotional neglect, infidelity, or anger.

    These experiences leave emotional marks that do not disappear automatically with age.

    This is where the conversation becomes uncomfortable.

    Because aging parents deserve compassion.

    But adult children also deserve honesty about the wounds they carry.

    Sometimes emotional distance in adulthood is not hatred.

    Sometimes it is unresolved pain.

    Some adult children avoid closeness because proximity reopens trauma they never healed from.

    This does not mean parents were monsters.
    Many were themselves products of harsh systems, poverty, patriarchy, survival pressures, and inherited emotional silence.

    But generational pain must still be acknowledged honestly if healing is ever going to happen.

    Migration and Diaspora Fragmentation

    The song also reflects another painful African reality:
    children leave home for education and opportunities abroad.

    Migration changes family structures.

    Children abroad:
    marry,
    raise children,
    work demanding jobs,
    adapt to different cultures,
    and become absorbed into survival systems elsewhere.

    Distance slowly becomes emotional normalcy.

    Phone calls become shorter.
    Visits become rarer.
    Years disappear quietly.

    Sometimes guilt itself makes children avoid calling.

    They know their parents are lonely.
    They know time is passing.
    They know they are absent.

    And shame creates even more silence.

    Masculinity and Emotional Isolation

    Many African men are raised to:
    suppress vulnerability,
    avoid emotional expression,
    lead through authority,
    and command respect rather than cultivate intimacy.

    This becomes dangerous in old age.

    Because once:
    work ends,
    physical strength fades,
    authority disappears,
    and children become independent,

    some men realize they never built emotional companionship.

    Their identity was tied to:
    being provider,
    disciplinarian,
    decision maker,
    and respected elder.

    But not necessarily:
    friend,
    nurturer,
    or emotionally accessible father.

    Retirement then becomes not only economic loss.

    It becomes emotional exposure.

    A man suddenly realizes:
    “I spent my entire life being needed, but never truly known.”

    That realization can be psychologically devastating.

    Marriage, Mothers, and Emotional Inheritance

    Another difficult truth is that marital conflict often shapes parent-child relationships.

    Sometimes mothers who endured betrayal, neglect, abuse, or humiliation consciously or unconsciously influence how children perceive their fathers.

    Sometimes children emotionally align with the parent they saw suffer most.

    At the same time, there are also cases where fathers are unfairly alienated because of unresolved bitterness between spouses.

    Families are rarely simple.

    There are fathers who sacrificed greatly and were still abandoned.

    There are also fathers who provided financially while emotionally wounding their families for decades.

    Both realities exist.

    The internet often wants heroes and villains.

    Real life is far more complicated.

    Aging and the Fear of Obsolescence

    What struck me most about this song is that beneath the loneliness lies another fear:
    the fear of irrelevance.

    The old banker is not grieving only poverty.

    He is grieving invisibility.

    He spent his entire life building something:
    a family,
    a future,
    successful children.

    Now he sits alone wondering whether the people he built his life around still truly see him.

    That emotional anxiety appears in many modern stories, including The Devil Wears Prada and conversations surrounding The Devil Wears Prada 2.

    Miranda Priestly’s fear is not simply aging.

    It is obsolescence.

    What happens when:
    younger people replace you,
    your sacrifices are forgotten,
    the systems you built evolve beyond you,
    and your usefulness fades?

    The old man in the village and powerful aging professionals are emotionally connected by the same terrifying question:
    “What happens when the world no longer needs me?”

    The Root of Bitterness

    Hebrews 12:15 “looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.” (New King James Version)

    The Bible warns about “the root of bitterness.”

    Bitterness rarely appears suddenly.

    It grows slowly through:
    silence,
    unresolved hurt,
    pride,
    humiliation,
    emotional neglect,
    unspoken apologies,
    and generational misunderstanding.

    Many families avoid difficult conversations for decades.

    Then illness comes.
    Or old age.
    Or funerals.

    And suddenly people wish they had said:
    “I am sorry.”
    “I forgive you.”
    “I was wrong.”
    “I love you.”
    “I needed you.”
    “Thank you.”

    Too many families are emotionally starving while pretending everything is fine.

    Families Need Honest Conversations

    We need spaces for truth without humiliation.

    Parents should be able to admit:
    “I was too harsh.”
    “I did not know how to express love.”
    “I hurt your mother.”
    “I thought provision was enough.”
    “I made mistakes.”

    Children should also be able to say:
    “I felt afraid of you.”
    “I needed tenderness.”
    “I still love you.”
    “I want healing too.”

    Forgiveness is not pretending harm never happened.

    Forgiveness is refusing to let pain become inheritance.

    Advice for Men in Their 50s and Beyond

    It is not too late.

    Call your children.
    Spend time with them.
    Listen without lecturing.
    Apologize without defensiveness.

    Do not wait until sickness or retirement to become emotionally available.

    Tell your children you love them while your voice is still strong enough to say it.

    Share your vulnerabilities, fears, anxieties, and discomfort.

    Let them know that you are also human, hence, fallible and not above mistakes.

    And fathers must also protect themselves:
    save for retirement,
    build friendships,
    cultivate hobbies,
    nurture community,
    and create emotional lives outside work and authority.

    No one should enter old age emotionally isolated.

    Final Reflection

    The elderly man in this song may or may not be a real individual.

    But his loneliness is real.

    It exists in villages.
    In cities.
    In retirement homes.
    In diaspora communities.
    In WhatsApp voice notes.
    In silent fathers.
    In wounded children.
    In aging marriages.

    This is why my brother sharing this audio affected me so deeply.

    Because this conversation is real.

    And we need to have it honestly.

    Love is not only sacrifice.

    Love is also:
    presence,
    gentleness,
    repair,
    listening,
    accountability,
    forgiveness,
    and emotional availability.

    Perhaps one of the greatest tragedies is not growing old.

    It is growing old surrounded by unresolved love.

    Because old age is long.

    And silence echoes loudly in homes where healing never came.

  • “The Devil Still Wears Prada”: Aging, AI, and the Fear of Becoming Obsolete in The Devil Wears Prada 2 (2026)

    Dr. Mary Mba

    Sunday, May 10, 2026

    Photo credit: Dr. Mary Mba at the Blackstone Valley 14: Cinema de Lux Movie Theatre in Millbury, Massachusetts on Sunday, May 10, 2026. Photo taken by son, Uche Mba.

    Twenty years after the release of The Devil Wears Prada (2006), the long-awaited sequel arrives not merely as nostalgic fan service, but as an unexpectedly poignant meditation on aging, labor, relevance, and technological displacement in the age of artificial intelligence. If the original film captured the postfeminist tensions of the early 2000s – career ambition versus personal authenticity, beauty versus intellect, femininity versus feminism –The Devil Wears Prada 2 captures something far more existential: the terror of becoming replaceable.

    And perhaps that is why this sequel feels so timely.

    The brilliance of the 2006 film lay in its ability to package systemic exploitation in couture glamour. Miranda Priestly was terrifying because she embodied an older model of power: perfectionism, hierarchy, exclusivity, gatekeeping, and ruthless standards. She was the dragon at the top of the fashion tower, and young women like Andrea “Andy” Sachs entered Runway believing survival required surrendering pieces of themselves.

    But in The Devil Wears Prada 2, Miranda is no longer the unquestioned center of gravity.

    Meryl Streep’s Miranda remains sharp, commanding, impeccably dressed, and emotionally glacial, yet the film subtly reveals that the world around her has changed. She is still feared, but no longer untouchable. The death of Runway owner Irv Ravitz and the subsequent impending sale of the company to younger corporate interests destabilize the old order. Suddenly, Miranda herself becomes vulnerable to the same disposability that once threatened everyone beneath her.

    This shift is one of the film’s most compelling thematic reversals.

    The original film asked: What must women sacrifice to succeed?

    The sequel asks: What happens when success itself becomes obsolete?

    One of the film’s most devastating moments occurs early, when Andy Sachs and her colleagues are fired by text message during an awards ceremony honoring her journalistic accomplishments. It is an almost cruelly modern scene – impersonal, algorithmic, efficient. There is no dramatic confrontation, no performance review, no human conversation. Just a notification.

    The scene perfectly encapsulates the emotional economy of contemporary labor: workers are celebrated publicly while being discarded privately.

    In many ways, the true antagonist of the sequel is not Miranda Priestly at all. It is automation. It is corporate streamlining. It is the ideology that experience, artistry, editing, mentorship, curation, criticism, and human judgment can all be replaced by predictive systems and AI-generated efficiency.

    This is where the film becomes especially relevant for those of us in the arts, humanities, education, and creative industries.

    The original Devil Wears Prada explored fashion as cultural labor. The sequel expands that conversation into intellectual and creative labor more broadly. Journalists, editors, writers, photographers, assistants, stylists, and longtime employees all exist under the looming threat of technological redundancy. The fear permeating Runway is not simply losing status – it is losing purpose.

    Andy’s role in the sequel becomes particularly significant because she ultimately weaponizes the very things that corporations underestimate: writing itself and human connection.

    Her journalism, voice, phone calls, interviews, and storytelling become instruments of resistance. Through her work, she helps expose the human cost of replacing experienced workers with automated systems, ultimately helping secure jobs and preserve institutional memory. The film thus makes a surprisingly forceful argument for the enduring necessity of human creativity.

    This is perhaps the sequel’s greatest achievement: it refuses technological fatalism.

    Rather than presenting AI as inherently evil, the film critiques the corporate obsession with efficiency at the expense of humanity. The question is not whether technology should exist, but whether industries still value the people whose labor built them.

    Visually, the film is stunning.

    The cinematography is richer, softer, and more emotionally textured than the sleek polish of the original. The photography lingers on aging faces, empty offices, reflective surfaces, and transitional spaces. There is an awareness of time everywhere in the film. Even the fashion reflects this thematic maturity: elegance replaces trendiness; texture replaces spectacle.

    The camera no longer worships youth in the same way the original did.

    Instead, it studies endurance.

    This visual maturity mirrors the emotional maturity of the returning cast. Anne Hathaway’s Andy carries herself with earned confidence rather than anxious ambition. Emily Blunt’s Emily appears sharpened rather than softened by age. Stanley Tucci’s Nigel continues to embody the emotional intelligence the Runway world desperately lacks. And Meryl Streep delivers perhaps the most fascinating version of Miranda yet: a woman confronting the possibility that she may become irrelevant in the very empire she helped build.

    Importantly, the sequel also revisits postfeminism through a contemporary lens.

    The 2006 film emerged during an era that often framed feminism as individual empowerment through consumerism, career success, and self-transformation. Women were encouraged to “have it all,” even as workplace structures remained deeply exploitative.

    But the 2026 sequel is more skeptical.

    It understands burnout.
    It understands precarity.
    It understands generational exhaustion.

    The younger employees are not simply chasing prestige anymore; they are trying to survive instability. Older employees are not merely protecting power; they are trying to preserve dignity in industries increasingly hostile to aging workers.

    The result is a film far more melancholy than its predecessor.

    Yet it is also more humane.

    If the original film ended with Andy rejecting Miranda’s world, the sequel suggests that the real challenge is not escaping the system but humanizing it before it devours everyone.

    Ultimately, The Devil Wears Prada 2 succeeds because it understands that fashion was never really the point. The runway has always been a metaphor – first for gendered ambition, and now for obsolescence in a rapidly digitizing world.

    Twenty years later, the devil still wears Prada.

    But this time, she is also afraid. 

    What ultimately elevates The Devil Wears Prada 2 beyond a simple nostalgia sequel is its insistence that human connection still matters in an increasingly mechanized world.

    One of the film’s most memorable sequences takes place in Milan during a major Runway event where Lady Gaga performs. The scene is visually spectacular, but its emotional significance lies elsewhere. Earlier in the film, budget cuts had eliminated funding for music and entertainment. The event risked becoming sterile and emotionally flat, another casualty of corporate cost cutting and efficiency culture.

    Miranda, however, calls in Lady Gaga as a personal favor.

    The moment quietly demonstrates one of the film’s central arguments: relationships still matter. Influence is not merely institutional. It is personal. In a world increasingly governed by algorithms, automation, and financial optimization, the film reminds viewers that human networks, loyalty, favors, mentorship, friendship, and emotional bonds still hold tremendous power.

    Without that connection, the event would have collapsed emotionally.

    The symbolism is difficult to ignore. Technology can organize logistics, calculate metrics, and optimize branding, but it cannot manufacture genuine loyalty, artistry, intimacy, or trust. The Milan sequence therefore becomes more than spectacle. It becomes a defense of humanity itself.

    Another deeply fascinating moment occurs during the discussion surrounding Leonardo da Vinci’s The Last Supper. Miranda reflects on Da Vinci’s portrayal of Christ without a halo, interpreting it as an attempt to emphasize Jesus’ humanity rather than idealized divinity. According to Miranda, Da Vinci understood that betrayal is part of the human condition. We are all capable of betraying and being betrayed.

    This interpretation becomes one of the film’s central philosophical threads.

    Betrayal haunted the original Devil Wears Prada. Miranda betrayed Nigel professionally. Andy betrayed aspects of herself and her relationships in pursuit of success. Workplace ambition repeatedly collided with personal loyalty.

    But the sequel revisits betrayal from a more mature perspective. Here, betrayal is not simply villainy. It is tied to fear, survival, insecurity, aging, and institutional instability. People betray others to protect themselves from becoming irrelevant.

    Yet the film refuses cynicism.

    Instead, it repeatedly contrasts betrayal with loyalty, love, and respect.

    Nigel emerges as one of the film’s emotional anchors. His loyalty to Miranda remains astonishing despite years of being overlooked and undervalued. Yet his loyalty is not portrayed as weakness. It is portrayed as emotional integrity. Even more importantly, Nigel also demonstrates loyalty to Andy, recommending her for opportunities after she loses her job. In many ways, Nigel embodies the emotional intelligence and generosity missing from the corporate machinery surrounding him.

    One of the film’s most moving developments occurs when Andy helps Miranda recognize how much she has taken Nigel for granted. Miranda’s eventual decision to allow Nigel to give the speech in her place becomes symbolically powerful because it represents something Miranda rarely offers freely: recognition.

    For perhaps the first time, she visibly acknowledges someone else’s contribution without centering herself.

    That moment may seem small, but emotionally it is enormous.

    The sequel is filled with these quieter gestures of care and loyalty. Andy’s friend, Lily (Tracie Thoms), the art curator, also becomes an important figure in this emotional ecosystem. In a film filled with corporate uncertainty and professional anxiety, her friendship offers stability, honesty, and grounded support. Unlike the transactional relationships dominating the fashion world, this friendship feels genuine and restorative.

    Andy herself also evolves significantly in the sequel. Unlike the younger Andy of 2006, who oscillated between admiration and resentment toward Miranda, the older Andy demonstrates a more mature understanding of complexity. She does not idolize Miranda, but neither does she reduce her to a monster. Instead, she approaches her with empathy, respect, and even love.

    That emotional maturity changes the entire texture of the film.

    The original movie was about entering adulthood through ambition and disillusionment. The sequel is about surviving adulthood without losing one’s humanity.

    Ultimately, The Devil Wears Prada 2 argues that institutions survive not because of branding, technology, or efficiency alone, but because people continue choosing one another. Loyalty matters. Mentorship matters. Gratitude matters. Love matters.

    And perhaps that is why the film feels surprisingly emotional.

    Beneath the couture, Milan runways, celebrity performances, and corporate drama lies a deeply human story about aging, relevance, forgiveness, and the desperate need to still matter to one another in an increasingly impersonal world. 

    One of the most fascinating dimensions of The Devil Wears Prada 2 is the way the film reimagines female relationships. The original 2006 film often framed women as competitors navigating scarcity within elite professional spaces. Ambition frequently came at the expense of intimacy, trust, friendship, and solidarity. Women admired one another, envied one another, betrayed one another, and occasionally protected one another, but the emotional ecosystem remained tense and deeply hierarchical.

    The sequel, however, evolves into something far more collaborative and emotionally generous.

    Beneath all the glamour, corporate politics, and technological anxiety lies a striking narrative about women banding together to save one another in a world increasingly governed by impersonal systems, profit motives, and institutional instability.

    This may be one of the film’s most radical interventions.

    Lily’s loyalty to Andy remains one of the emotional constants of the story. Unlike the original film, where friendships were strained under the pressures of ambition and lifestyle transformation, the sequel portrays female friendship with greater maturity and emotional patience. Lily does not disappear when Andy struggles professionally. She remains present, supportive, grounded, and emotionally available throughout the chaos.

    That matters.

    In a film deeply concerned with disposability, Lily’s consistency becomes a form of resistance.

    Andy herself becomes one of the film’s central protectors. Perhaps the most significant example of this occurs in her relationship with Miranda. The younger Andy of 2006 oscillated between fascination and moral disillusionment. The older Andy understands complexity differently. She recognizes Miranda’s flaws, coldness, pride, and emotional distance, yet she also sees her humanity, vulnerability, brilliance, and fear.

    In many ways, Andy ultimately saves Miranda.

    Not merely professionally, but existentially.

    Miranda stands on the brink of losing Runway, the institution that has defined her identity for decades. The film repeatedly suggests that aging women in positions of authority are often tolerated only as long as they remain profitable and culturally relevant. Once corporate leadership begins discussing restructuring, modernization, and AI integration, Miranda suddenly finds herself threatened by the very machinery she once mastered.

    Andy intervenes not out of opportunism, but out of loyalty, respect, and love.

    That emotional evolution between the two women is one of the sequel’s greatest strengths.

    The film also handles Emily Charlton with surprising nuance. Emily still carries resentment toward Miranda for effectively pushing her toward Dior years earlier. Her desire for revenge manifests through her relationship with Benji and her wish for him to acquire Runway partly out of spite. Yet even amid that bitterness, the film refuses to reduce Emily to caricature.

    Importantly, Andy refuses cruelty.

    After Benji breaks up with Emily, Andi responds not with superiority or judgment, but with compassion. The moment quietly reinforces one of the film’s central ethical arguments: women do not need to destroy one another to survive.

    This thematic commitment culminates beautifully in the character of Sasha, portrayed by Lucy Liu.

    Sasha becomes one of the film’s most important figures precisely because she embodies both independence and strategic generosity. For two years, she has remained elusive and inaccessible, refusing interviews and public engagement. Yet she ultimately grants Miranda and Andy the interview that helps restore credibility and momentum to Runway during a moment of instability.

    But Sasha’s second intervention is even more significant.

    She ultimately purchases Runway and allows Miranda to continue leading it.

    This decision completely alters the emotional logic of the film. Rather than allowing corporate restructuring, male financial interests, technological reductionism, or generational hostility to dismantle the institution, another woman steps in and preserves it.

    That choice matters symbolically.

    Runway survives not because a corporation saves it, but because women choose to save one another.

    Even Lady Gaga’s Milan performance participates in this larger thematic framework. Her appearance is not contractual spectacle. It is relational. She comes because Miranda calls upon a personal connection. Once again, the film emphasizes that loyalty, admiration, history, and emotional reciprocity still possess transformative power in a world obsessed with efficiency.

    The same is true of Jin, Andy’s assistant, played by Helen J. Shen. While many younger employees in films about generational transition are written as detached, opportunistic, or technologically alienated, Jin becomes indispensable. Her stealth recording of the restructuring meeting orchestrated by Jay after Irv’s death becomes one of the pivotal acts of resistance in the film.

    Importantly, the younger woman is not the destroyer of the older generation here.

    She becomes its protector.

    That detail fundamentally reshapes the film’s generational politics.

    The women in The Devil Wears Prada 2 do not survive because they are flawless. They survive because they eventually learn to choose solidarity over ego, loyalty over resentment, and protection over competition.

    In this sense, the sequel quietly critiques one of the underlying myths of postfeminist culture: the idea that women must endlessly compete for limited space at the table.

    Instead, the film imagines something far more hopeful.

    What if women expanded the table together?

    Before I conclude, I must acknowledge something deeply personal about this experience. This screening of The Devil Wears Prada 2 was my Mother’s Day gift from my children. Over the years, this has quietly become one of the most meaningful traditions in our family.

    My children know how deeply I love film, not only as entertainment, but as text, pedagogy, cultural critique, and human conversation. They understand that for me, movies are never just movies. They are opportunities to think, teach, question, write, connect, and create. Over the years, The Devil Wears Prada, 2006, was one of the movies I taught repeatedly in my Women In Film classes. Once this sequel came out, they knew that I had to watch it.

    Last year, they gifted me a screening of Sinners, which eventually inspired me to write a detailed review and develop teaching materials around the film. In 2018, they gifted me Black Panther, a film that became so intellectually and culturally significant to me that I later published a book chapter inspired by it, “The Black Panther, Bridging the Gaps That Separate Us?” while also developing teaching materials that I used for many years in my classes and workshops that I titled: “Black Panther: Africa in A Nutshell.”

    And now, this year, they gifted me The Devil Wears Prada 2.

    As I sat watching the film, I realized that this tradition says something profound about motherhood itself. My children have paid attention to who I am. They recognize not only my sacrifices as their mother, but also my passions, my intellectual curiosities, and the things that make me come alive. There is something incredibly moving about being seen so fully by one’s children.

    For that, I am profoundly grateful.

    To my daughter and my sons, thank you for continuing to nurture the teacher, writer, critic, and dreamer in me. Thank you for understanding that one of the ways I experience love is through stories, cinema, ideas, and the classroom. And thank you for making Mother’s Day not simply about gifts, but about connection, thoughtfulness, and shared intellectual joy.

    Perhaps that is also why The Devil Wears Prada 2 resonated with me so deeply. Beneath all its glamour and corporate drama, it is ultimately a film about relationships, loyalty, memory, and recognizing the people who make our lives meaningful.

    As a mother, I could not ask for a more beautiful gift than that recognition from my children.

  • Full Circle — From My Gown to Hers

    Mary Mba (Ph.D)

    There’s a photo I return to every now and then.

    It’s from May 17, 2014. I’m wearing my doctoral gown, hood in hand, a proud new Ph.D. standing in the warmth of accomplishment. Beside me, beaming, is my daughter—then a bright-eyed girl with a giant flower in her hair and a future wide open before her. I remember that moment so vividly. She had no idea what a Ph.D. was, really—but she knew it meant something big. She knew it meant her mother had worked hard for something, and that she had been part of that journey.

    Fast forward to today—she’s graduating with both her Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees, earned in just four years.

    Let that sink in.

    It’s not just a win for her. It’s a generational triumph.

    Before me, there was my mother—the first girl in her entire village, Ezialayi in Alayi, Bende Local Government Area of Abia State, Nigeria, to go to school. In the 1940s and 50s, education was reserved for boys, especially in rural communities. But she dared to break the mold. She went on to become a teacher and rose through the ranks to retire as a principal. She planted seeds of possibility in soil that had never known them before. Her courage to learn in a time that tried to silence girls lit a fire that has never gone out in our family.

    I am that fire’s next flare.

    My own resilience was not self-made—it was an inheritance. A strength drawn from watching my mother hold classrooms, raise children, lead with quiet determination, and never apologize for taking up space in a world that often told her she didn’t belong.

    As a graduate student, I had almost all my children. I raised them in classrooms and conference halls, faculty meetings and student events. They sat quietly at the back of lecture rooms, scribbled in coloring books while I taught, and walked through campuses like little grown-ups. They weren’t just witnesses—they were participants in this long, gritty, beautiful story of becoming.

    They saw my resilience not as something exceptional, but as normal. They watched me push through legal battles, illnesses—both theirs and mine—poverty, eviction threats, and unrelenting expectations. They watched me work multiple jobs, smile through exhaustion, and speak life into every obstacle.

    And now here she stands.

    A young woman with her own degrees, her own voice, her own fire.

    It’s surreal. It’s sacred. It’s full circle.

    She is not just my daughter. She is my reflection, my proof, my legacy. She carries the hopes of her grandmother and the will of her mother—and walks boldly into a future where she will light the way for others.

    To all the mothers still fighting for their dreams while raising children, I see you. Your kids are watching, learning, and growing into the strength you model. One day, they’ll put on a cap and gown of their own—and you’ll stand in the wings, tearful, proud, and grateful for every hard-won mile of the journey.

    Today, I honor her.
    But I also honor my mother.
    And the girl she was, the woman she became, and the path she carved for all of us.

    And yes—she still loves wearing big flowers in her hair. 🌸

  • A Season of Endings and Beginnings: Graduation Reflections from a Mother, Mentor, and Scholar

    Mary Mba, Ph.D.

    Graduation season is here again.

    There’s a special kind of energy that sweeps across campuses this time of year – an energy that carries with it the weight of late-night studying, years of perseverance, deep friendships, and silent sacrifices. Caps are tossed, gowns flutter in the spring breeze, and the air hums with the anticipation of what’s next. Beneath the surface is a tangle of emotions: the joy of completion, the anxiety of change, the thrill of achievement, and the quiet dread of the unknown.

    I know these feelings well.

    Over the years, I’ve celebrated three graduations for three different degrees – my bachelor’s, master’s, and doctoral. Except for my undergraduate graduation, my children were present for each of those moments. They didn’t just witness my academic journey – they lived it with me. Through my studies, deadlines, and moments of doubt, they were there. And I always made sure they were there for the celebration too. My success was – and is – our success.

    For many years, I’ve also celebrated my students’ graduations. I used to host an annual graduation party for international African students and their families. What began in the modest space of my home eventually grew so large that we had to reserve entire halls. I would cook Nigerian and other African dishes, we’d play music, dance, laugh, and build a sense of community that transcended borders. It wasn’t long before it wasn’t just for international students – anyone who wanted to celebrate joined in.

    But this year is different.

    This year, I’m not just a scholar, a mentor, or a host. I am the mother of a graduate. My own daughter is graduating – with both her bachelor’s and master’s degrees, completed in just four years. I find myself filled with awe, unsure how to fully express what this moment means to me. Do I dance and shout in celebration? Do I sit in quiet reflection? Do I plan a party or simply hold her and whisper, “Well done”?

    As I watch my students walk across their stages this season, I find tears welling up – not just for their journeys, but for hers. For mine. For all the roads that led us here. I say silent prayers: that their futures are steady, their paths meaningful, and that the education they’ve fought for is a strong enough foundation for all that lies ahead.

    Graduation is not just an ending. It is a threshold. A rebirth.

    And in this sacred season of endings and beginnings, I hold space – for the joy, the uncertainty, the pride, and the ever-present hope that tomorrow will be kind to my daughter and to all those graduating in this graduation season.

  • When Words Disappear: Sony Labou Tansi, Trump, and the Battle Over Language

    By Mary Mba (Ph.D.)

    “To forbid words is to erase the world they describe.”
    —Sony Labou Tansi

    In 1979, Congolese writer Sony Labou Tansi published La Vie et demie, a surreal and grotesque novel that imagines a dictatorship so absurd and violent it makes language itself a casualty. Decades later, in a very different setting, the Trump administration has implemented a chillingly real campaign of linguistic erasure—quietly banning words like diversity, transgender, systemic racism, pregnant person, and even woman from federal communication.

    In my recently completed academic paper, I draw a provocative comparison between Labou Tansi’s fictional regime and the real-world linguistic censorship imposed by the Trump administration across two presidential terms. Though they exist on different ends of the spectrum—one a postcolonial African dictatorship, the other a contemporary Western democracy—the parallels are striking. In both contexts, language is not just controlled—it is redefined, weaponized, and erased.

    Take Executive Order 13950, which labeled concepts like “white privilege” and “systemic racism” as “divisive,” or the 2025 ban on terms like LGBT, female, and assigned male at birth. These are not merely semantic shifts. They represent a form of bureaucratic violence that targets already marginalized groups by rendering their experiences unspeakable. As Michel Foucault and Judith Butler would argue, when language is removed, so too is the framework for identity, resistance, and legal protection.

    In La Vie et demie, Tansi’s characters resist the regime’s control by speaking in poetry, irony, and contradiction. Martial, the indestructible rebel, and his daughter Chaïdana, who preserves his legacy through storytelling, remind us that to name the truth—even when language is broken—is an act of rebellion.

    The United States is not immune to the dangers of linguistic control. We see it not only in executive orders and policy revisions, but in attempts to ban books, restrict inclusive curricula, and threaten academic freedom. Yet, resistance persists. Writers like Eve L. Ewing use poetry to reclaim erased histories, and journalists like Nikole Hannah-Jones reframe the American story through projects like The 1619 Project. Their work, like Chaïdana’s, insists on naming what power wants us to forget.

    This is not just a literary or academic issue—it is a democratic one. The words we are allowed to speak shape the futures we are allowed to imagine. When “diversity” becomes unspeakable, diversity itself becomes unrecognizable. When “woman” is erased, so is the struggle and triumph of women’s lived experiences.

    As Tansi shows us, language is never neutral. And in every age, we must fight for the right to speak our truth—especially when the silence is sanctioned.

    🔗 Read the full academic study (coming soon).
    🎙️ Coming up next: A podcast episode exploring banned words, storytelling, and survival.

  • Sisyphus in Heaven: Revolt, Eternity, and the Divine Dilemma

    Mary Mba (Ph.D)

    The Conversation

    Last night, my son Ude and I found ourselves in a spirited conversation about immortality. His philosophy class had just discussed Socrates—calmly facing his death, curious rather than afraid. Would it be oblivion? Or a new life? We paused, weighing the gravity of those possibilities. But then our conversation took a turn: toward eternity. Toward heaven. Toward hell. Toward Sisyphus.

    I told him I found beauty in Camus’ vision—that we must imagine Sisyphus happy. Not because he has found meaning in the absurd task of rolling a boulder uphill forever, but because he chooses to embrace it anyway. That, I told my son, is my rebellion too.

    Death as Curiosity

    Socrates saw death not as a tragedy, but as the ultimate question mark. He imagined it as either the most peaceful sleep or a doorway to another kind of existence. His serenity came from detachment—but mine comes from immersion.

    I am not afraid of death because I refuse to let fear dictate how I live. I want to live boldly, consciously, even when I am broke, tired, or uncertain.

    The Joy in the RevoltCamus and Sisyphus

    In The Myth of Sisyphus, Camus gives us a man condemned by the gods to push a boulder up a hill forever. But Camus flips the script: “The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man’s heart.” The absurd does not break us—it offers us the chance to revolt.

    Sisyphus is not a symbol of despair but of joyful defiance. His refusal to succumb to hopelessness is a model for all of us navigating the daily weight of survival in an existence that often appears meaningless.

    What is the meaning of life when it’s filled with suffering, repetition, and banality? Should we still be happy living it? But isn’t that what heaven—or hell—might feel like too?

    What If Sisyphus Went to Heaven?

    Here’s where my son and I diverged. He believes that in eternity, God will grant us divine knowledge. I asked—then what? If we all possess divine wisdom, are we truly equal, or does a hierarchy still linger? Will we know in full or only in part? Will questions remain? Will desires?

    Would some still long for drama, for choice, for something more than the endless praise of the one who sits on the throne? Will we still have free will?

    Sisyphus exercised his free will—and was punished for it. His revolt stopped people from dying, disrupting the cycle of life. In the cosmos of order, rebellion is often mistaken for chaos.

    In Revelation, the heavenly realm is filled with creatures covered in eyes, day and night proclaiming, “Holy, holy, holy.” It is an eternity of glory—but also of eternal surveillance, eternal memory, and eternal praise.

    And what happens when we remember pain? Earthly joys? Desires unmet? Might eternity itself begin to unravel under the weight of our memory?

    Jared M. August asks a similar question in his theological reflection: “What shall we remember?” He proposes that Revelation depicts the believer’s memory as preserved in eternity, reinforcing the importance of memory in all its forms—not just joy, but also pain, longing, and identity (The Gospel Coalition).

    Memory, Worship Fatigue, and Monotony. Is Heaven another Absurd Existence?

    Revelation promises that “they will serve him day and night in his temple” (Rev. 7:15). But what if service becomes suffocating?

    If we cannot imagine Sisyphus happy in his earthly absurdity, how can we prepare ourselves to embrace eternity? What if, like Sisyphus, a soul wakes up one eternal morning and says, “There must be more than this”?

    What if rebellion in eternity is not born of pride—but of boredom?
    What would happen to diversity, to desire, to difference?

    Maybe eternity, like the boulder, is heavy. Maybe the truest revolt is to find joy—even there.

    My Own Rebellion

    I told my son that I am Sisyphus already. I rise each day under the weight of bills, deadlines, longing, and fatigue. And still—I revolt.

    I choose life. I choose joy.
    Not because my situation is easy, but because my refusal to give up is sacred.

    I am not waiting for eternity to be handed to me.
    I am making eternity now, each moment I resist despair.
    I do not look forward to a heaven or hell as a place—
    But I live them as states of being. One cannot exist without the other.

    Questions for Eternity

    So I ask:

    What if Sisyphus reached heaven and still found the boulder there?
    Would he kneel in eternal worship, or would he smile, pick it up, and roll again—just because he could?

    Can we imagine an eternity that includes rebellion,
    Not as sin,
    But as spirit?

  • Immortal and Undone: Beauty, Power, and the Women Who Refuse to Die

    By Mary Mba (Ph.D.)

    When I was a child, Mom was a teacher and had a rich collection of literary work that I always got lost in as my escape. One of the memorable books I read was She—not just the first novel, but the entire trilogy: She, Ayesha: The Return of She, and Wisdom’s Daughter. I didn’t fully understand the cultural implications then, but I was captivated. Ayesha was beautiful, wise, terrifying, and unyielding. She ruled. She didn’t apologize. She lived for thousands of years, and her story stayed with me for decades.

    Years later, while teaching Death Becomes Her in my Women in Film course, I began to see it differently and would often reference Haggard’s She in my classes. I’d shown the film many times as an example of visual satire, camp, and gender performance—but something clicked. The themes of fear, beauty, power, and punishment weren’t just superficial. They echoed the same cultural anxieties I had first encountered in She. And so, this paper—and this blog post—was born.

    “She-Who-Must-Be-Obeyed”: A Name I Know Too Well

    Over the years, I’ve been called that—“She-Who-Must-Be-Obeyed”—not as a compliment, but as an attempt to silence me. To mock my defiance, my curiosity, and my penchant for being a critical and logical thinker. To punish my refusal to bow to illogic or perform submissiveness so unquestioningly. But here’s the irony: they called me that not because I refused to obey—because I asked critical questions, thought outside the box, was creative, pushed boundaries, had a can-do attitude, refused to just conform, and stepped out of line – to improve on and do it even better.

    Just like Ayesha.
    Just like Lisle.

    Two Immortal Women, A World of Fear

    In She (1887), H. Rider Haggard introduces Ayesha: a veiled, ancient queen who rules over the lost African kingdom of Kôr. She’s more than beautiful—she’s unbearable to behold. Her gaze kills. Her voice commands armies. But she is also an Orientalist fantasy: white and wise, ruling over “uncivilized” African subjects, her power derived from a mystical fire hidden deep in the heart of Africa.

    The novel is a product of British colonial anxiety—a time when the empire was both expanding and crumbling, and Victorian masculinity was obsessed with controlling the “wild” unknown. Ayesha, therefore, is the feminine Other: desired and feared, powerful and dangerous, and ultimately undone by the very mystery that defines her.

    Fast forward to Death Becomes Her (1992). Lisle von Rhuman is just as commanding—an immortal beauty who seduces aging celebrities with a potion of eternal youth. Her appearance is coded as exotic but sanitized: a vaguely Mediterranean accent, long flowing gowns, Middle Eastern décor, and a surreal, ageless presence. She lives in a palatial Beverly Hills estate that could double as a temple. Her power, like Ayesha’s, is spiritualized, sexualized, and elusive. We never really know where she’s from. That’s the point. She is Othered, but safely packaged for the Western gaze.

    The Psychology of Glamorous Entrapment

    From a psychoanalytic view, Ayesha and Lisle embody the Freudian death drive—they don’t grow or evolve, they just loop: around obsession, vanity, loss, and denial. Their beauty is a trap. Their immortality? A gilded coffin.

    In Lacanian terms, their reflection becomes their prison. They’re stuck performing an ideal version of themselves, and that performance… slowly falls apart.

    From Freud to Lacan to Kristeva, the psychology in both stories is clear: these women are trapped in the mirror. Immortality is not a gift—it’s a loop. Ayesha can’t move on from her past. Lisle is frozen in her aesthetic present. And Madeline and Helen—Lisle’s customers—become grotesque dolls, eternally reapplying paint over decay.

    Enter Julia Kristeva. In her theory of abjection, she describes the abject as what we try to cast off in order to be “clean,” “whole,” or “civilized.” It’s the stuff that blurs boundaries—between life and death, self and other, inside and outside. It’s vomit, blood, rot… or a woman whose neck is twisted backward but still walks in heels. In both She and Death Becomes Her, the immortal body becomes abject: a horrifying, leaking symbol of what must be expelled to maintain order—but that refuses to go quietly.

    These women don’t live forever.
    They perform forever.
    And in doing so, they become both icons… and abjections.

    Power + Punishment = The Price of Being “Too Much”

    Ayesha and Lisle are punished not because they’re evil—but because they’re too powerful. Too commanding. Too unapologetic. Too unknowable. The narratives demand their collapse to restore patriarchal order.

    Madeline and Helen, meanwhile, are punished for aging, then punished for refusing to age. Their co-dependent decay isn’t just grotesque—it’s a satire of how society turns women into rivals, then cannibalizes them.

    The Exotic Immortal and the Colonial Gaze

    Ayesha’s African empire is visually lush but racially caricatured. Her dark-skinned servants speak in broken English. The white male explorers see her as goddess and monster, mother and mistress. Her femininity is both the height of allure and the reason she must be destroyed.

    Lisle may not be “colonial” in the traditional sense, but she’s no less coded. She’s timeless, foreign, and unknowable. Her immortality is portrayed as forbidden knowledge—like ancient wisdom stolen from temples—and her body is marked not by race, but by exotic performance. She’s the kind of Other that Hollywood adores: seductive, mysterious, and conveniently unattached to any real cultural identity.

    Camp, Queer Time, and Living on the Edge of Decay

    Of course, Death Becomes Her doesn’t just lean into satire—it leans into camp. Stilettos on corpses. Lipstick on broken necks. Sequins over splinters. It’s fabulous and horrifying, and queer scholars have long celebrated it for refusing naturalism. The women don’t die. They don’t grow. They just exist, unnaturally and unapologetically.

    And that, too, is a kind of resistance.

    Ayesha is camp, too—in her high drama, her divine pronouncements, her robes and rituals. She is queen, priestess, diva, and drag.

    What Do We See in the Mirror?

    When I look at Ayesha and Lisle, I don’t just see fictional women—I see reflections of cultural obsessions. I see what we do to powerful women who don’t conform. I see the fear of aging, the punishment of visibility, and the danger of desire unbound.

    But I also see possibility. Performance. Resistance. A touch of the divine.

    💬 Let’s Talk

    This blog post reflects just a portion of my full academic paper:
    📖 *“The Immortal, the Vain, and the Undone: A Comparative Analysis of H. Rider Haggard’s She and Death Becomes Her”
    🗣️ What does immortality mean to you?
    👁️‍🗨️ What are you refusing to let die?
    💅🏾 And what version of you lives forever in the mirror?

  • She Who Must Be Obeyed: Beauty, Power, and the Divine Feminine in Death Becomes Her

    By Mary Mba, Ph.D.

    I’ve watched Death Becomes Her more times than I can count. I’ve taught it in my Women in Film classes for years, always amazed at how this glammed-up, campy 1992 film sparks such serious conversations about aging, beauty, power, and the lengths women are asked to go to remain visible.

    But the older I get—and the deeper I dive into stories of monstrous women, divine mothers, and witches with impossible grace—the more one character in this film stands out to me:

    Not Madeline Ashton.

    Not Helen Sharp.

    But Lisle von Rhoman.

    Swathed in silk, nearly nude, adorned with gold and mystery, Lisle floats into the story like a postmodern goddess. She’s played by Isabella Rossellini with the grace of an immortal and the gaze of someone who knows you will obey her—or suffer. And she offers something no woman in the real world is supposed to have: eternal youth.

    Of course, there’s a catch. There’s always a catch.

    “Take care of yourself,” she tells Madeline. “You and your body are going to be together a long time. Be good to it.”

    “You may continue your career for ten years… but at the end of that time, before people become suspicious, you have to disappear from public view forever.”

    That line always makes me pause.

    We’re taught that beauty is visibility. That the reward for being young, slim, flawless, is to be seen. But what Death Becomes Her shows us—what Lisle teaches—is that in this system, beauty also requires erasure. You can stay beautiful… but only if no one sees you fall apart. And when that time comes, you’re expected to vanish.

    It’s a terrifying deal. And yet, doesn’t it feel familiar?

    The Goddess in the Algorithm

    Lisle’s candlelit temple, her magical elixir, her immortality rituals—they might seem far from the world of filters, ring lights, and celebrity skin routines. But they’re not. Her logic lives on in today’s beauty apps, in TikTok transformations, in the $60 billion cosmetic industry that turns aging into failure and transformation into endless labor.

    Makeup has become modern magic. People sculpt entire new faces daily. Drag queens remind us that gender, like youth, is something you can paint. Women in their 60s are going viral for reversing time with contour. The same power Lisle holds—the power of illusion—is now available in every Sephora and on every phone screen.

    But the pressure remains.

    Maintain yourself.

    Be careful.

    Don’t crack.

    Global Goddesses, Real Monsters

    Lisle isn’t alone in media history. Across African, Asian, and Latin American cultures, we’ve always had powerful feminine spirits. Mami Wata, La Llorona, witches who resist marriage or bear scars of survival. In films like I Am Not a Witch, Mami Wata (2023), or Onibaba, the female body becomes sacred, dangerous, ungovernable.

    These women don’t always maintain themselves. Sometimes, they rot. Sometimes, they fight. Sometimes, they scream. But they never disappear quietly.

    That’s what makes them monstrous—and that’s what makes them divine.

    When the Mask Doesn’t Come Off

    What Death Becomes Her leaves us with isn’t horror or comedy—it’s a question: What happens when the body is no longer yours, but a performance?

    As I revisit this film with students, with friends, with myself, I see Lisle not as a villain, but as a warning. She who must be obeyed is also she who must be feared. She offers power. But it’s not freedom. It’s maintenance. And behind every mirror in her temple is a woman who will one day fall apart.

    So maybe the question isn’t how to stay young forever.

    Maybe it’s this:

    What does it mean to be seen—truly seen—even as we change?

    And how do we write ourselves into a story where we don’t disappear?

  • Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark: Real Monsters, Political Horror, Fear, and the Fight for Truth

    Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark: Real Monsters, Political Horror, Fear, and the Fight for Truth

    By Mary Mba, Ph.D.

    Scary Stories, Real Monsters: Political

    When Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark hit theaters in 2019, I remember walking out of the theatre with chills—not just from the film’s haunted monsters, but from the eerie resonance it had with real life. I quickly bought the entire three volumes of the book – because, I am that much of a book lover! Set in 1968 America—a time of war, protest, and political fear—the movie felt like a mirror reflecting our present, especially under Donald Trump’s administration. Watching it again now, in 2025, the mirror feels even sharper.

    Directed by André Øvredal and produced by Guillermo del Toro, the film is based on the cult-classic book series by Alvin Schwartz, notorious for its eerie tales and unforgettable illustrations. Set in 1968, the movie follows a group of teenagers who stumble upon a haunted book that begins writing new horror stories—stories that come true and target them one by one. But what begins as supernatural terror quickly reveals deeper truths: the danger of silence, the violence of misinformation, and the haunting power of stories told to protect the powerful and punish the marginalized.

    This is more than a horror movie. It’s a metaphor. A warning. A map of how fear, when turned into story, becomes power.

    Now, in 2025, with the resurgence of policies and rhetoric built on exclusion and fear, the film feels frighteningly prophetic.

    Haunted Books and Presidential Narratives

    In the film, a haunted book writes people into their deaths. The monster isn’t just Sarah Bellows, the ghost writing these tales—it’s the story itself. That’s where I saw the clearest parallel. During Trump’s first presidency, and now again, we’ve witnessed a flood of false, fear-driven narratives: immigrants as invaders, cities as war zones, the “other” as threat. These aren’t just political strategies—they are scary stories.

    And like in the film, the stories became real. Families were separated. ICE raids terrorized neighborhoods. DEI programs are now being banned. Schools are being forced to erase truth to protect power. At Haskell Indian Nations University, students lost teachers, coaches, and access to classes because of federally imposed cuts. Even some of Trump’s supporters are now losing their jobs. The stories don’t spare anyone in the end.

    Spiders Under the Skin: COVID, Contagion, and the Fear of Infestation

    One of the most disturbing scenes in the film is when a girl’s red spot explodes with spiders—an infestation no one saw coming. It’s a perfect metaphor for COVID-19. During the pandemic, fear of infection turned into racial hatred, especially against Asian Americans. Trump’s use of the term “China Virus” fueled hate crimes and conspiracy theories. The fear wasn’t just of the virus—it was of people. That’s how horror works: it dehumanizes first, then attacks.

    Monsters and Moral Panic

    The Jangly Man. Harold the Scarecrow. The Pale Lady. These monsters represent institutional violence, bureaucratic horror, and systemic fear. But the real monster? The book. The story. Because once a lie is told often enough, it writes itself into law.

    The monsters today wear new faces: “voter fraud,” “CRT,” “wokeness,” “illegals,” “replacement theory.” All scary stories written to justify real harm. And just like in the film, these monsters keep reappearing until we rewrite the story.

    The Gospel of Fear: Evangelical Narratives and Political Mythmaking

    Here’s where things get even deeper—and scarier.

    In The Plague by Albert Camus, Father Paneloux, a devout priest, tells his congregation that the deadly epidemic is a punishment from God for their sins. He preaches certainty. Judgment. But after witnessing the slow, agonizing death of a child, his theology begins to fracture. He offers a second sermon, filled not with answers, but with anguish. “We must love what we cannot understand,” he says, no longer able to justify suffering with spiritual logic.

    Now, think of Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark. The town of Mill Valley casts Sarah Bellows as a witch, a monster, a vessel of evil. Her story becomes gospel—passed down, accepted, unchallenged. But the truth? Sarah was a scapegoat, silenced by her powerful family to protect their reputation. The town believed the lie because it was easier than facing the truth.

    This is the same pattern we see in American evangelical narratives around Trump. For years, prominent religious leaders declared him a divine instrument—a flawed but chosen vessel sent by God to save the nation. His policies, no matter how harmful, were spiritualized. Wrapped in prophecy. Justified with scripture.

    But now, as cuts to global health programs, aid organizations, and basic humanitarian services take effect—even those who once defended him are starting to feel the fallout. The suffering can no longer be hidden. Just like Father Paneloux. Just like the people of Mill Valley. The story is cracking.

    And here’s the hard truth: when fear becomes theology, monsters are born. When the gospel is used to silence, scapegoat, and justify cruelty—it stops being gospel at all. It becomes horror.

    So we must ask:

    • What kind of savior harms those he claims to protect?
    • What kind of story makes monsters of the innocent?

    It’s time to stop reading the same haunted script. It’s time to write something better.

    Rewriting the Story

    In the end, Stella doesn’t kill Sarah Bellows. She listens. She writes a new story—one based on truth. That’s what we’re being asked to do now.

    Camus called it “common decency.” I call it courageous storytelling. We have to tell the truth, especially when it’s uncomfortable. We have to protect our most vulnerable, especially when they’re being erased. And we have to remember: narratives are not neutral. They can kill. But they can also heal.

    The monsters aren’t just on screen. They’re in headlines, laws, policies, pulpits. But so is the pen.

    And we’re still holding it.

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  • Rebellion and the Absurd: How Immigrants Must Resist Trumpism Without Becoming Oppressors

    “Rebellion and the Absurd: How Immigrants Must Resist Trumpism Without Becoming Oppressors”

    By Mary Mba (Ph.D.)
    Published on MayokMedia.com

    The Immigrant’s Struggle in an Absurd America

    America is a land of contradictions. It was built by immigrants, yet it fears them. It calls itself a land of freedom, yet it erects walls, bans, and detention centers.

    For immigrants, especially Black and African immigrants, Trump’s America was a lesson in absurdity. How do you navigate a system that claims to stand for justice but criminalizes your very existence?

    Albert Camus, the philosopher of the absurd and rebellion, teaches that in a world where oppression is normalized, we have only two choices:

    • Give in—accept oppression, live in fear, and become invisible.
    • Rebel—not with hate, but with defiance, truth, and dignity.

    This piece explores how immigrants can apply Camus’ philosophy of rebellion to resist oppression without losing their humanity.

    The Absurdity of Trump’s Immigration Policies

    Camus defines the absurd as the conflict between human hope and a world that refuses to meet those hopes.

    • Immigrants come to America seeking opportunity, only to find themselves vilified.
    • African and Muslim immigrants were singled out, despite the country benefiting from their labor, talents, and culture.

    Key Examples of Absurd Immigration Policies Under Trump:

    1. The Muslim Ban (2017): Aimed at barring entry from African and Middle Eastern nations.
    2. Family Separations at the Border: Ripping children away from parents as a deterrent.
    3. Cutting Refugee Admissions to Record Lows: Shutting doors on those fleeing war and persecution.

    Camus would argue that these policies do not serve justice but exist to manufacture an enemy—scapegoating immigrants to consolidate political power.

    The Camusian Response: Rebellion Without Hate

    In The Rebel, Camus warns that many revolutions start with justice but end in tyranny because they become obsessed with power.

    If immigrants and their allies want to resist xenophobia, racism, and nationalism, we must do so without falling into the same traps of exclusion, fear, and retribution.

    • Rebelling with Truth – Dismantling false narratives (e.g., immigrants as criminals, job stealers).
    • Rebelling with Action – Advocating, voting, and mobilizing to create lasting policy changes.
    • Rebelling with Solidarity – Uniting across racial, religious, and national lines to fight for justice.

    Historical and Modern Examples of Ethical Rebellion:

    • Frederick Douglass (19th Century): Exposed the hypocrisy of American democracy while advocating for abolition.
    • Civil Rights Movement (1960s): Used nonviolent resistance to dismantle segregation.
    • Black Lives Matter (2020): Mobilized globally against police brutality and systemic racism.
    • DACA & Dreamers (Ongoing): A generation of undocumented youth refusing to be erased.

    Each of these movements embodies Camus’ idea that rebellion is not about vengeance—it is about affirming human dignity.

    Thriving as the Ultimate Rebellion

    For immigrants, the greatest act of defiance is existing and thriving despite efforts to erase them.
    – Staying in America despite racist policies is rebellion.
    – Raising children who will succeed is rebellion.
    – Telling our stories and shaping the national conversation is rebellion.

    Trump’s America wanted immigrants to live in fear, to disappear, to feel unwanted.
    The response? We stay. We fight. We thrive.

    As Camus wrote:
    “Mankind’s greatness lies in his decision to be stronger than his condition.”

    Conclusion: The Immigrant’s Rebellion

    Camus teaches that rebellion does not promise immediate victory—but it is the only path to dignity.

    • Even after Trump is gone, xenophobia will remain.
    • Oppression will continue, but so will resistance.

     How will you resist? How will you rebel?
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